Why do men cheat on their spouse? Is polygamy the true nature of men? Can men be faithful in a relationship? What exactly is the cause of this trend among men? What are the women doing wrong to deserve this from men or are women guilty of sexual immorality too?
I went home to celebrate the burial of one of my aunt who passed on last weekend, she lived to an old age but it was a tragic death. She was tortured by Mr sickness before she finally passed on. Everybody was wailing and crying at her grave side. I helped with getting the coffin into the ground and positioning as the casket needed to sit well and align Because the grave was drugged for two. I almost cried as I was coming out of the pit dugged for her body, as I heard everyone sobbing and grinding teeth and emotionally bidding farewell. You will think that day was a bad and gloomy day.
Fast forward to 2 hours, everyone was dancing and spraying money at the reception. Many drank themselves to stupor. At about 5:43pm we drove back home, while we were driving home in a blue fine elegant Toyota Siena one of my uncle had bought this conversation happened. The car was filled with 10 men, i was the youngest. We have 6 married and 4 unmarried men.
They discussed about how women were the necessary evil they needed to keep life going. One spoke of how he and James shared a girl called Khadijat and she did not know. He called Sade one evening and she said she was with her boyfriend, who was this boyfriend, the boyfriend was James. Many times after every round of sex James and Ayo will meet and have drink to discuss, laugh and mock Sade.
Jaye then spoke of how many girls and women he had sex with every week. He even showed evidence. One called him while driving and was showing him her naked body (breast, vagina and all) and another who was sleeping with her junior sister in the room, watched carefully that the junior ones were far asleep, she then brought out her two breast and started fiddling with them. Then he said the most disgusting thing i ever heard, women were made for us to have pleasure (in local language).
Shola said I used to come home late before my wife complained to my dad, I promised I will change to come home early enough. Now I have changed, I come home early in the morning the next day, is that not early enough? We all laughed. While all this was going on in the car, we were all laughing intermittently. We discussed this till my Uncle said Tobi is in this car o, you people will spoil Tobi, he is a good boy, at his age he still does not want to have sex, his wife that would have been a prey to somebody like us? I have told him no woman wants a nice man like him, you need to be a man with a lion heart.
I kept mute and many thoughts in my head. I am bounded by the bro code, I am also in thought of why are men treating their lovely wives like this? Many of the wives of these men I know to be prayerful, godly, caring and all. I also thought of what kind of husband I will be when I marry? Is marriage not over rated? Who is to be faulted?
Well, my father told me something before he died, he said, “a man who has not been to cross is a Fox, he could be Fox in sheep cloth (pretender) or a wild Fox. A man that has been to the cross is a King.” Everyone pray for the Proverb 31 woman but who will be Lemuel of Proverb 31:1-9.
The world needs real father, the world is bleeding for lovers of their home. The world needs you to step into the shoe of a father whose life his children can emulate, simulate and copy. The world is looking for parents who will raise world change makers. Men who will teach the scripture and communicate God’s revelation to their family. Men who will flee fornication, adultery and immorality to raise a child to fulfill God’s purpose.
Truly prick no get shoulder but the result of prick can destroy a Destiny.
Note: all names not real name…
THOUGHT FROM A GOLDEN PEN 