FEELING COMFORTABLE IN MY “SINGLE” CHAIR?

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In Africa, when you attain a certain age the world begin to put pressure on you and remind you of getting married. Marriage is not the key to happiness and been single is not a curse. Nothing is wrong with you as a single man or lady? Please why do you need someone to complete you?

The first 25 years of my life was in the single zone. It was the most interesting and adventurous time of my life. A time I spent in developing and growing mhyself which has not stopped. They were the time I found MYSELF. I enjoyed God’s love and also gave love to myself. When you take yourself to the ice-cream parlour you do not need to take a selfie to show it. When you went to do some swimming you do not need to think will I like it. When you are doing your early morning jogging while articulating goals and also speaking in the unknown. You love yourself unstopped. None stop and without hurt. This is the time of no friction and this allow you give better love to others and God. There was no depression. I enjoyed all around me. I said what I want to say and how I want to say it.

Just close to my twenty-fifth birthday, I started allowing the feelings of the heart speak to me. It was overwhelming and really made me vulnerable.  I was playing a romantic movie scene on TV which was awesomely amazing. My heart was given away totally. I was sold out. I was in my heart rejoicing to the altar. Suddenly, there was sharp turn and each vehicle drove farther and farther from each other. I have drawn my first and probably last lesson of love from this event.

I confess that the process of healing was not easy. Your healing starts when you forgive. It required lot of energy and emotion readjustment or engineering. It was also in this time I was going through health challenges, It became really revealing when you are left alone to navigate through the storms but you were there when they needed a hand. I learned very serious lessons of life. I have forgiven the person but I will never forget the lesson learned. It is no wonder the Book of books says guard your heart with all diligence…some people are scavenging and looking for who to steal or rob of their happiness, kill their morale and when they leave they expect you to be sad because they have just destroyed and withdrawn your happiness. This is because they think they are all you got to be happy. You have to prove them wrong.

I have spent the last 12 months again in the SINGLE chair with the last 3 months been comfortable and hungry for more life achievement. The creativity and innovation spirit is rejuvenated. I am fired up to do more, I am inspired to break limit and deliver set goals. Hello, your been single is for a purpose enjoy it and grow in it. If you have never enjoyed been single you can never enjoy been married, it did not say that but Dr. Myles Munroe said it. Why are you in a haste to get married? Why are you troubled to find someone? Calm down, I tell you, eyes have not seen and ears have not heard what the Lord has prepared for you. Whenever they don’t love you they always complain. The Book of books say the path of you the righteous shines brighter and brighter… the truth is you are getting better and better. As I get closer to thirty, I am remembered I don’t deserve better but the BEST. Show plenty love to yourself in your single state, take yourself out, cook sweet delicacies to yourself, take care of your body as a king or queen you are. Smile with a big attitude of gratitude for the altitude you are stepping into. You are LIMITLESS when you understand that been SINGLE is not a curse. Very soon you find that person who does not need you to be complete and you don’t need them to complete. They just love you because of YOU. Not that you don’t have flaws but they just love you still and cannot stop loving you. Till then keep feeling comfortable in your SINGLE chair.

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LETTER TO GENERAL DAE ON THE COLD WAR.

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Gun shot, carcass on the war front, the injured are lying helplessly in the hands of the medics. Desolation, arrogance, pride and hate fill the air. Allies and country FRIENDS call for revenge and our throat thirst for blood. The ground is messier than ever with blood.

Suddenly, I as the general on this side is tired of fighting, I have lost many soldiers, got several surgery to remove bullets, I almost died, I am thinking for how long will this war go on. Can’t these allies of ours bring us to table to dialogue and end this war? They have commercialized this war; they sell bullet, armored tanks, drones and ammunitions to us, while our men die in battle. They enjoy the money, smile and live in love with their own people and spouse, while we are at war.

Yesterday, I got a letter that was unaddressed. The writing communicate like you are interested in dialogue and peace. After security analysis from allies and experts the letter was deemed irrelevant, because it was not addressed and our experts think you wrote it to another General you are at war with. I holla at your territory to observe your body language toward peace but you did not show up. I was made to know this could be a trap for ambushed. I was encouraged to continue the WAR. Our guards are ready as ever, new drones and rocket launchers just arrived this morning. We have ordered some incredible and gigantic warship, our soldiers are motivated but I AM TIRED OF WAR General DAE.

As I look at my table, I see proposals from different Generals like you for communion and international RELATIONSHIP, they look juicy but I can’t quickly forget the good old days of our friendship and relationship. I hope you remember those days too…

I lay on my bed, I am tired, weary and thinking of the dead, the people we have made homeless, the number of women we have made widows, how about the amputees and children we have both made orphans. Are you not TIRED OF WAR? If you are, then we must not shy away from dialogue, let put a stop and hurt to this war.

There is no need for blood spilling and shedding again. Let put our allies to shame and make this tie a forever for life in peace, love and happiness.

Dear General Dae, I will give it a deep thought on my own, I will expect a reply to this letter General DAE. If you want my men to seize fire for you to give this dialogue a thought, please let me know as soon as possible. Our seize fire will not mean removing all guards and our flag hoisted in your territory we have conquered. I know this is pretty hard for both of us, but you got to step out and give it a thought on your own.

 

RESPECT IN WAR FOR PEACE.

Signed by The EAGLE WAR LORD AND GENERAL.