EQUALITY OR EQUITY…FEMINISM OR HUMANITY?

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I am a keen lover of the female gender. It is great delight to have them around as I am the only male in my family since my father died. I am unapologetic about my support for the female gender. I will always support the aspiration of women’s goal and aspiration.

Women are not weaklings, they are not foolish, they don’t whine. They are wise, strong and pillar of the society. They hold an important office in the growth and development of a nation. They are the custodian of values and morals. Woman; a teacher and shaper of destiny. No real man will pride himself in physically assaulting a female. No real man will abuse a woman. A matured man protects, tend and care for the woman gender. The strength of Man is in using our strength to cover up for the woman’s weakness not showcasing it.

My deep concern is when a woman begins to see herself as less. When a woman wants to be equal to the status and stature of a man using the world equality? Are we in a competition? Didn’t the maker made us help meet (collaborators)? Why then the competition for equality when you are? You don’t fight to be what you are because you are?

Anybody who have to say you don’t know who I am before you know who they are was nobody- Pastor Sam Adeyemi

Why the tussle, struggle and hassle. You are a woman, celebrate your uniqueness and stop fighting with the male gender like he is a gladiator. Stop speaking for yourself alone and expecting a man to support, rather speak for the oppressed men, children and women on the street. We were created in different capacity, male and female he created them…Please dear Queen celebrate your womanhood with a deep seen of humanity. You can never be a man; no matter how you try God will never promote you to the position of a man and vice versa.

Many ideologies have destroyed the family and society. A society where women expect merit even when they don’t merit it. A world where women can misbehave without consequences but man cannot. A world where been rude to husband is seen as romantic.

Let’s turn to statistics: Do you know 1/3 male are sexually harassed by female worldwide at work place? Do you know globally there are more tendencies a boy is abuse without help than a girl? Do you know women are crueler to women than men? Do you know it is likely a female gets help or favor under same condition than a male? Do you 2 out of 5 persons that has gone through domestic violence is male?

Is this equality? I am an advocate of gender equity. I love women; I will never beat or physically abuse a woman. I will always accord the respect a woman is due to her. If I wrong a woman I will be humble enough to apologize sincerely and all this I have always done.

Women must begin to dignify themselves than mere talk. All ye feminist, when was the last time you stood up in a bus for a pregnant or nursing mother to sit? A man is expected to stand up right? Shake my head… I think all feminist should think humanity first before feminism. Women stop looking for sympathy rather seek empathy. You are not weak…infact after the bible had called you week vessels, it called you sons. What an upgrade!

I remember a celebrity feminist pulled up media stunt with Femi Anikulapo-Kuti’s children. If you are truly a feminist you must value children. If not feminist is rubbish. Feminism without a respect for your own body and nakedness is stupidity. I remember a feminist snatched her friend’s husband. Feminist that does not respect fellow feminist is waste of time. I know lots of feminist who are rude to the leadership of their husbands at home because they are equal. This is rebellion against God. Any feminist without respect for God’s command is foolishness.

I hope women’s selfishness, being self-centered, and arrogance are not been labeled FEMINISM. Killing INEQUALITY with another INEQUALITY IS FOOLISHNESS. In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth…And God said come let us create MAN in our own IMAGE and likeness(Man is God’s image but can never be GOD)…Come let’s make him an help meet(WHY DO WOMEN WANT TO BE MEN?)…She shall be called Woman (WOMB-MAN not WOE-MAN) for out of me she was brought forth. Women you are beautiful, unique and whole, celebrate your uniqueness.

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KONJI NAH BASTARD…LIBIDO IS BLIND.

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As a young Christian, you have heard  the sermon of Joseph(the prime minister) and Mary(the mother of Jesus), how they remained chaste and God blessed them in return. You also want God’s blessing, so you decided you were going to live a chaste life like they did.

Good, the journey started as a child but the real battle started as a teenager, your body started calling for what you cannot give it. It is hungry like your stomach, it desires food and its food is SEX. Can anyone in the bid to fill hunger, eat poison. Having sex outside marriage is poison! When we eat and get satisfied, does that eliminate hunger in future, NO! Alas! Having sex is the step to having another sex.

My journey thus far was inspired by my mother and my religious background. I had friends who were all sexually active. I aided them in getting their victim but refused to act like them. I knew all the technique but was not interested in defiling myself. Yes I did not, but I am guilty of accomplice. Ask my friend, will you marry any of the girls you had sex with? The answer is a blatant NO! Hey Sis and Bro, Sex will not make him/her love you more, it is a big lie.

For me, it has been rough, I do not even know how I stumbled to be here still standing. Not that I have never tried to but I have always wanted a future so different and outstanding.

I eventually found someone I love deeply after God’s leading. When i say God’s leading, i know what i am saying. She is cute, loving, caring, intelligent and cynosure of all eye.  She is a Christian, tongue speaking, holy ghost filled but we put ourselves in a very tight situation, we did everything that precede sex but did not have sex.  Mind you, everything that precedes sex is SIN, if you are not married. Why are you pouring fuel in the engine you do not want to start. Rather than our love to get stronger, today we are way apart. That is what SIN and premarital sex can do to even people who genuinely love each other. I have always thought I will get stronger as I get older. That is not the case; rather the temptation is more frequent and harder. It has become tougher and daunting.

I honestly regret every action behind those close doors, I am not proud of it, but grace kept me standing. Hey, you justify that kissing, smooching, fingering is no SEX, you are a bloody liar. Every activity that leads to sex is sex. I repeat, why are you pouring fuel in the engine you do not have intent to start?

God’s love is unchanging, he desire we present our body a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to him…which is our only reasonable service. The result of my action was guilt, depression, sadness, fear and most of all a separation from my love.

Dear, why are you drinking poison every day in the form of premarital sex? Why are you killing yourself and saying it is enjoyment. Premarital sex kills.

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I have renewed my vow and now taking it again. In between 3-5 years, I will get married, I will walk down the aisle with my Queen, I will wait patiently for her. She is priceless, her worth more than rubies, the glory of her husband, the keeper of her home, she overcome her enemies at the city gate, the explanation of God’s beauty. The road has not been easy but I am willing by God’s grace to cross the finish line.

If you have messed up, he loves you, if you have not yet messed up but you are not born again, please give your life to                 Jesus as your Lord and savior.    Jesus loves you so much.

CAN YOU WAIT FOR SEX?

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Great to have you here Kings and Queens. You are the best of your kind that God has created. You are priceless; you are the solution to this world. Before and after you no one will be better than you. Therefore, let no one make you feel less of yourself. You came alone, you will go alone. No one is as important in your journey as God.

 

Why should your father, mother, sister, brother, pastor, boyfriend, girlfriend, aunt, uncle, neighbor, boss, or anybody want your hymen or want to have sex with you? No price is worth you? Sometimes we may get carried away by emotions but we must be disciplined enough to control and WAIT! We may be weird and be in our beast mode but we must allow the word of God dwell in us richly to conquer our emotions to wait for the purpose of God on our life in marriage.

Have ever thought girl, what is the function of the hymen in the body? Yes, for what purpose? I can say it emphatically that science says it got no purpose. It only purpose was to be a sign of God desire for us to wait till our marriage night. It is God speaking to us to close-up and WAIT!

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Can you just WAIT for sex? God desire we offer ourselves a living sacrifice worthy and acceptable to him, this is our only reasonable service.

If you live a chaste life with Christ in you the hope of glory then you have offered your life as a sacrifice to God. Jesus is the real deal. His life given into our spirit has transformed us to become an Ekklesia (selected one).

If you have been broken, no worries, Jesus still love you the way you are, you have made great mistake, He desires to show you agape love, a love unconditional, he wants to pour out himself on you, come to him and be free from your guilt, shame and death.

Action Key: I vow to stay chaste to my marriage as Christ was sinless to save and take the church as a bride from sin and death. I accept him as my Lord and Saviour.

Continue rejoicing in his peace till we meet again. Jesus loves you.

I HAD SEX AND SO WHAT?

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I had sex and so what? I had sex but I am not proud of it, I had sex but I regret it, I had premarital sex when I was in darkness, I had sex when I was fulfilling the lust of the flesh. I messed up. Yes, I lost control and I am still not proud of it, but Jesus waited.

Jesus found me in my mess, he cleaned me up, and he loved me before I came to him. He invited me like the woman by the well. He quenched my thirst with the living water and not sex. He fed me with bread of life and not pornography, masturbation or same sex immorality. He showed me his amazing grace. He killed my addiction with his affectionate and affirmative words he gently spoke into my spirit.

I wish I knew what I know now. I wish I was not deflowered. I wish I was not broken, but it is okay. I have made a vow to stay chaste and pure till my wedding night. It is 5 years down the line without sex. I am enjoying his grace, his marvelous joy, peace unlimited, blessings without bound, I have a fulfilling job with a handsome pay. I am engage to the best spouse in the world, though we are tempted on every side by the devil but we are fighting, resisting and wining by His grace. We are getting married later this year. I am a bundle of testimonies, since I found my new love; Jesus.

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Jesus loves you still, even if you have messed up, he calls out to you, he can make you clean, pure and acceptable. The devil will put fear in you and remind you of your past, but Jesus love you still. His love is boundless. He wants to shower his amazing Grace and favour on you. He is waiting for you and patiently.

You can close your eyes where you are and say a sincere and heart felt prayer. Confess and forsake your sin. Promise him to live chaste and pure till you get married. Tell him you will not engage in premarital sex. Ask for His grace to win all your battle. Ask him to be your Lord and Saviour.

Welcome to the family of God, where we experience Agape LOVE of God.

I had sex and so what because I know better now and I found Jesus. I am a new creature and heaven bounded. I am a Light to my world.

I CAN’T WAIT FOR SEX

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You can’t wait for sex, why can’t? Is there really nothing bad about sex? What is the craze for sex about? Is premarital sex worth it? Why should I wait?

I know sex is a very controversial subject across the world, yet it is what we should not shy away from. I am not speaking as a perfect being, but as a colleague in the struggle. I sometimes are overwhelmed by my emotions and urge. I am not only a writer here but also affected person. I am not trying to judge anyone here but share the truth.

I wonder why there is a lunch of missile against our sexuality. Why do the world see whoever want to stand right as an outcast, weird or abnormal. When did we lose it, where did evil become good, wicked become kind and abnormal become normal.

Why have sex before marriage become norm? when you risk physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual hazard. Why are you playing with the serpent and expecting no sting. Why do you want to be thrown into the den of scorpions without been bitten.  Hepatitis B, HIV/AIDS and STIs are on the menu list of premarital sex. Unwanted pregnancy is a part of the meal served on the table of premarital sex. Why do you want to shake hands with stress and depression; the number one killer, it is killing more people then HIV/AIDs now.  What is the distinction between man and animal when we behave like animals, we want to have sex uncontrollable like animals, and we even make comparison of ourselves with animals in the case of homosexuality and lesbianism? If science proves animal does, sorry I am not an animal; I am made in God’s image. Our being is different.  Whenever the world throws us into the bracket of making wrong choice a norm, then the world has automatically withdrawn the right to choose from us.

Sex is not bad in itself. It is good when it is within the marriage confine. This past year I had the most stressful and depressed year because of losing guard on my sex/purity life. Only GRACE sustained me and my partner. We give glory to God.

Many times, sexually active teenagers or young adults are stressed, depressed, addicted, and vulnerable to violence and crime. Why do you want to take this big risk? When you can wait a little and enjoy sex legally.

The number 1 cause of stress is relationship. Ask the married man or woman, who is married and it is not working, it is always a long sad story of love and heart break.

Why is the media, print, visual and adverts targeted at arousing our emotions through sexuality? It is high time we as young men and women take charge of our sexuality and offer it has a sacrifice to God. We have to and must say NO TO SEX UNTILL MARRIAGE. We must say yes to purity. Standing in gap like Joseph, Daniel, Mary, Esther, Timothy and others pays.

I am not in the capacity to boast, it is God’s grace that has kept this writer for 26 years counting. I have not regretted my decision one day; it has been a long journey, the more I go the steeper it is. I surely know he has my future in his hand and he is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that I(You) ask or think.

Dare to be different, and stand for purity. You may have messed up, you can be clean by the blood on the Calvary, if only you look, confess, forsake and live. You can be made whole again and made spotless.

To you who is still standing, beware!!! Least you fall. The race is not for the swift, neither for the strong…

Beware! Sex is a covenant, it is powerful, it is a seal, it is a vow, it is an exchange, it is a commitment and it is God’s gift.

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